I really just don't understand. Or maybe I DO understand, but still. Really?
I've realized after talking to one of my friends in depth about friendship, that I value reciprocation quite a lot. I believe that friends should be there for each other when it counts of course. But beyond that, it should be pretty equal in terms of effort. I hear (and probably also say) a lot of "How come we never talk anymore?" or "How come I haven't seen you in so long?" and as with so many other things that have to do with human interaction, it goes both ways. Answers like "You never call me anymore" are pretty negated since of course, the other party could have just as easily picked up the phone and dialed. That's totally legit. If I question the connection but I haven't really done much about it, then yeah I am definitely just as much at fault as the other side.
What I do not appreciate is when someone is making an effort which is not returned. It's one thing if I make an effort, you shut it down or don't respond - okay I get it, not interested, over. But it's another if you're into it, accept, act like a friend ----------- but it's only for that temporary time. Once it's over, thennnnnnnn ... <---it's just like that! DOT DOT DOT
Maybe I'm not enlightened enough to just give give give and expect nothing in return.
The solution, I have been told, is to stop giving. It's true. That would probably solve the problem. But I'm still upset about it.
