Assumptions are human nature. No one can help their assumptions, but is there a time and a place for realizing that they may not be correct? Or if knowing that they are not, for the acknowledgment?
Like many things, assumptions are very dangerous. They can completely change the way that you perceive something, someone, a situation.
Looking on my own life, I now realize that there are things that even the closest of friends do not know about me. And this definitely holds true for everyone else as well. The norm by which we judge things is completely relative. Assumptions are made without understanding someone completely. We all judge on what we know, but more often than not, there is more to the story than we know. Where does the understanding come in and how can it be reached?
This is not agreed upon by the majority, but I believe that it is only through speaking, telling the truth, and as juvenile as this sounds, revealing feelings, can we come a little closer to understanding a person's true character.
There is a time and place for everything, and I believe that this holds true for objective/logical thinking as well as for emotional responses. Humans are emotional creatures, and there are many things that determine the way that we will respond to stimuli. It is not only intrinsic, but learnt as well. Monkey see, monkey do. A strong factor is that of our family. The life that we have at home.
Recent events over the past couple of months have led me to believe even more strongly in the connections. Pushing away, creating a new path is difficult, but the influence of someone completely different with a completely different background is helpful and I believe it is helping me to become different from what I know, what I once believed was the way to do things. The first step, of course, as with everything, is admitting the fault, acknowledging having a problem.
And I do.
My yesterdays of observation have lead to my todays of implementation, but these will lead to my tomorrows of change.
I make resolutions for New Years, as many people do, and I often forget them a month or two later.
This resolution is too ingrained for me to ever forget.
